One Thing, One Day, One Moment
Have you ever had a ton of stuff on your plate? Feeling overwhelmed and anxious about life because you are so busy? Then you finally have it under control, start talking about it, and someone swoops in and tells you, “It’ll be ok, just take it one thing at a time.”
So annoying, right?
Yes, taking things one step at a time helps. Obviously. However, they don’t know your process or what step you are on. They just feel the pressure to give advice even though it’s not requested.
But why do we take it negatively?
What if people just genuinely want to help or just don’t know what to say when you are explaining your busy life?
For me, I always have a ton on my plate because I like to stay busy and moving. I want to make a difference and show my children that busy doesn’t mean bad, nor does it mean you don’t have time. It just means you are busy.
Let’s break down a typical day for me (typical as in I don’t let the parental chaos take over and ruin our rhythm…which happens quite often)
- Awake around 6:30 AM
- Kids awake by 6:45 AM
- Breakfast, dressed, teeth, etc
- From 8:00 AM until around 9:00 AM we are doing various activities. I work on my blog, partnerships, emails, photography editing, work requirements for MommyCon, and scheduling social media. *Kbebe plays, paints, reads, (or TV if I have a lot to do)
- Every day except Monday (or weekends/raining) we are out the door by 10:00 AM to go to the park, playgrounds, Petit Artist, or play dates at friend’s houses.
- We try to get home by 3 PM for naps / quiet time
- Afternoons are for present play, basically, I put my phone down and we play or walk/run the neighborhood
- Dinner around 5:30 / 6:00 PM
- Bedtime for Kids at 7:30 – 8:30 PM
- I clean up, spend time with The Dudeman until 10:00 PM
- After my husband goes to bed I usually stay up until around 12:00 AM / 2:00 AM to pay bills, clean, or just have some time to truly focus on my online responsibilities. Yes, most nights that means Netflix until I can’t keep my eyes open.
- Then it all starts over at 6:30 AM
Reading that schedule you would think that I have ok much on my plate and I need to slow down right? You would think I should be exhausted all the time. Not to mention my work trips, as of now, MommyCon and BlogHer17.
If it’s working for me, why? Why should I stop doing what makes me happy to appease what others think I should be doing?
The days that I stick to that schedule I do so much better at everything! I spend more active time being present with my children, meal prepping happens, and my house is starting to get clean. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I need sleep but I usually get between 4 and a half to 6 hours which seems to be enough for me. If I sleep any more than 6 hours I am completely useless and I just want to watch tv all day.
Everyone is different! That is why it is important for both the person explaining their day and the person giving the advice to give some grace. Your friends just want what they feel is best for you and vice versa. It’s hard! Heck, even I’m still working on both sides of that. But for me, it is nice to have a safe place to vent when I’m overwhelmed surrounded by people who believe in me enough to push me to keep going.
Yes, we should take one thing at a time in certain situations. Finish one task before moving on to the next. Something that seems impossible to a parent since we have to be aware of everything at one time. It is possible to be successful in life with the right support. For me, I’m learning to accept the words of others even when they aren’t exactly what I want them to say. It’s a process and I need to communicate to others how their words affect me versus keeping that bottled up inside. If that sounds a little like you, comment on this post and let’s chat about it! I could use some reassurance that I’m not the only one out here!