Marriage is Hard
Seriously, is it easy for anyone out there? I mean, The Dudeman and I have been together for almost 8 years, but our marriage is coming up on year 4. These 8 years have been full of drama, love, chill times, hype times, and we have literally grown up together. See, we met in college and it was your typical college love story, or was it?
Our Love Story
Ok, so it started just like any other love story. A boy meets a girl…ok well a girl stalks a boy. I had just gotten out of a relationship and wanted to just have fun throughout college. The Dudeman was a hot lacrosse player, I was a hot lacrosse player, it just seemed like a good idea. So, I would invite our mutual friend to hang out and ask if he was coming too. (stalker-ish)
We hung out often and eventually had a lovely evening together that included binge drinking and dancing at the frat houses. Super classy I know, but the next morning I told him I was going to marry him. I wasn’t serious but here we are 8 whole years later two kids, and a whole new outlook on our marriage.
A New Kinda Marriage
As with all things in our life, marriage and kids all happened rather quickly. Honestly, we had only just stopped fighting all the time just a year prior to getting engaged. Then a week after that we found out Kbebe was nestled sweetly in my just healed (endometriosis surgery) uterus. So to get married just 3 months after finding out we were to be parents, well that was wild.
It was wild to think we were ready for the weight of the word MARRIAGE. Then to welcome a baby a few months later having to become spouses and parents so quickly. Then The Sweetness, she was born 21 months after Kbebe. Like I said, our life transitions happen so quickly. We have had to create a strength between us so that we don’t drift apart. That strength lies in communication, and this year with all our changes it’s going to take a lot of it.
For 2018, that’s what I’m focusing on. Nurturing this wild marriage thing we have created. After fighting through the “baby blues”, that lasted a little too long, it feels really good to be happy again. To feel that same spontaneous fire that started our story again, to feel positive for the future, it feels pretty dang good.
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